Question: Can you leave someone you love because you think he/she
loves you too much?

Dr. Love: The above question is an enigma for so many years. A
confusing yet dangerous dilemma that most often than not leave a loving heart wounded and miserable.

But can it really be possible? Can someone leaves the one he/she loves simply because he/she feels too much love from his/her partner?  Honestly, I don’t think love existed at the time of letting the other half go.

Love, based on the scriptures, bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things. So how come something so great
become a reason for causing misery and pain? When someone leaves a healthy relationship, love has escaped that relationship.

I have this friend of mine who separated with his wife of four years.
He told me that he’s getting choked with the amount of love being given by her partner. That he feels he needs some space between him and his wife so that he could take a breather from the “too much” love he’s been getting from his wife. That he thinks he doesn’t deserve the love of his wife because somebody out there could love his wife better. That he cannot reciprocate the affection being provided by his wife. So many reasons yet he failed to give me an exact answer when I asked him one question. And that question is whether “he still loves his wife”.

Most of us uses the above mentioned reason to simply have an excuse for leaving someone whom we cannot find faults in a relationship. We make use of the said “break-up line” to masquerade the guilt of having fell out of love. We make use of the seeming enigma as a goat to hide the truth that we don’t love our partners anymore.

People in general, enters a relationship to find affection, care and
attention. Thus, having a very loving partner is like winning the
jackpot in a small town lottery. We yearn for so much love and
affection. We long for unwaivering fidelity from our partners.
When you decide to leave a relationship behind, it means that you have outgrown the feelings that you once had. When you decide to splitup with your partner, it means that you have lost the love you once had for him/her. That’s the simple truth. No matter how you deny it, it would still be the truth and you know it deep within yourself.

You only leave someone whom you don’t feel loving anymore. Couples
leave each other because they can’t feel the warmth of love anymore.
You step out of a relationship to try and find a better one where you
could feel more loved and cared for. You just don’t leave someone who loves you and say “I still truly love you”.

So, can you leave someone you love because you think he/she loves you too much? The answer is, you just don’t love him/her that much that you could simply move out of his/her life.